The rules are DEAD on. Words for us all to live by. Yes, we believe the WAS is living the "new" life and by God, they are. New apartment, new furniture, not expected to be "home", can come and go as they please, do not have 3 children and a house to take care of full time. Sorry, but right now, in my opinion, the WAW has the easy part. Maybe, maybe at some point the guilt, selfishness, sadness creeps up on her, but right now, I'm not seeing it.
"Yes, it does seem like it is all about them. The walk away spouse just really has it all. We’re bending over backwards trying to get them to see our changes and change along with us. We’re taking on more responsibilities because they walked off and left the responsibilities behind them. We’re busting our butts to make this damn thing work in a way that THEY can live with, and without much help or feedback in return. Yep, damn frustrating."
This sums it up. But we will be better people and if they want to be part of our lives, then at some point, we can talk about it. Because I know I need to make permanent changes and I contributed to the collapse of the M, but so did the WAS.
Hang in there. We all need each other right now; we are the strongest, most supportive family we have.
