I don't want to leave the impression that I have not done anything over the past 3.5 years. I have re-read DBing at least 6 times and have tried all of the various strategies and approaches. My wife has even gone as far as to acknowledge my changes and improvements but for whatever reason cannot recommit to the marriage. In fact she will go out of way to make sure that I am not in a position to do anything nice for her.
I have read the 5LL and found that it was difficult to make any deposits because of the wall that my wife has built up around herself. She continues to be secretive and not up-front. She also continues to speak negatively about me to her friends and makes everyone think that I am still the bad guy. After I suggested that she find another place to live she told her friends that I must have a girlfriend, otherwise why would I ask her to leave! She conviently leaves out the part about her affair with the OM she continues to work with and that fact that she has done nothing in the past 3.5 years to make want to continue this any further.
Will keep posting as to what happens going forward.
