Kelela I am sorry your vacation isn't going better. Its not great that you slipped and confronted your H, but don't dwell on it. You are human, and as such, you make mistakes. I think forgiving yourself could maybe be a 180 for you.
One thing, notice how maji approached her H. She was calm - this is really important. If you feel you must say something always stay calm. No accusations, no ultimatums. Your script would be something like "I feel hurt when you spend so much time texting." Period. He'll either take that under advisement and change his behavior, at least a little, or he won't. Remember you can only control yourself - and sometimes not even that Give yourself a break Kelela. This stuff is very very hard.
Over on the MLC board there is a poster named Takesvowsserious. I have includeded links to her first and her most recent threads. She has an amazing story. Most recently she attended a work function - and her H and the OW all work together. Her H sat with the OW! But read how TVS handled herself! I find it so inspiring!
Give yourself a break Kelela. This stuff is very very hard.
