Yes, it's a great idea to unplug the garage door opener if you don't want things to disappear w/o your knowledge. What's interesting is that he never wanted any of his tools and still doesn't to this day. I would have been more than happy to open the garage up for him when I was home. Oh, well, his loss.
The Easter Egg was the story of the day back in 2000. His mother had given me this old ugly plastic egg to use as a filler in a basket and quite frankly, I had forgotten about it because I had put it away and never used it. I had it for about 4 years. Well, "Eggbert" demanded that freaking egg, his baby photos and my key to his truck. I was more than willing to mail all of this stuff to him, but my lawyer suggested one visit to the home and let it the end of it. So, I agreed. He showed up with 2 deputies to get this stuff and what's funny is I knew the 2 deputies and they thought he was completely nuts. When packing up the rest of the stuff that I had found, he just threw the egg in the suitcase and I guess it got broken...but it was more of a "I'll show you that I can come in my home deal". I think he brought the deputies because he was trying to intimate me...but it didn't work. I served them up cokes and asked about their families while he was huffing and puffing around the garage and in our sight in the home. So, very sad. Eleven years later, he still asks for things from my now home and the answer is always the same...check the divorce decree, you got just what you asked for.
I hear from him once in a while. Yes, his ow (current wife) has ovarian cancer. She was diagnosed just about 2 years ago and is still fighting for her life. She's had various rounds of chemo and tumors have appeared in other parts of her internal organs. He's kind of in denial because he's still off doing his thing and I don't think she's in that great of shape to be out and about for long periods of time. I feel for her and wouldn't wish this type of illness on anyone. You know, you aren't the first person to ask if I'm worried about his showing back up on my doorstep if something should happen to her...if he's anything like his father in his behaviors, he will not try it. He will find someone else because it's too difficult to admit the wrongs he created. Would I take him back? My answer continues to be no. So there you have it...a very short version of the Egg story.
It's nice to rearrange your furniture because it gives the room a new look and it makes you feel better. Have you thought of painting your bedroom? Something fresh and bright?
Gardens are wonderful for the soul. Your hands are working in the soil and just think what takes place once the plants are thriving...Mother Nature provides you w/a beautiful picture of life w/the blooms, etc. I don't think he'll cancel the service. I think it's his way of checking on you and his "territory".
I seriously doubt that my xh ever learn to face his issues head on. BTW, everyone was surprised that my xh would try the things he did w/me just knowing my personality and knowledge of the law...but stupid is as stupid does.
Enjoy your weekend. Enjoy your garden for it will bring a smile to your face when you've completed the planting.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
