Where can I get a damnit chicken??????? I swear to goodness I haven't had such a good laugh in awhile... the mere visual is well worth procuring one for myself.
For all who are interested, I shared that technique with Myrrh when she enlightened me on the nuts and bolts of how they argue.
When she had a problem, her emotions got the better of her, and she attacked her H verbally. In turn, her H wouldn't finish the convo or would start fighting back. He accused her of not really listening.
That technique is the PERFECT answer to her H's accusation. It's really tough (if not impossible) to really listen to someone when you're either preparing your defense or your next offensive move.
The situation becomes unmanageable and then both parties are overwhelmed and have gone nowhere.
For the record, Myrrh promised to use the techniques by following the rules: to be calm.
We then discussed the idea of having a timeframe one day per week to address things with her H. This would signal to him that it was time to clear the air and he would only have to endure conflict once a week. It would also give Myrrh some cooling off time and time to construct some questions about a topic that has her feeling resentment.
Cuz Myrrh told me that she really wants to dump the resentment she feels toward her H.
This is how we came to this sort of idea sharing.
She's easy to work with!
Hugs,
Bets
p.s. Myrrh, how long will you be there for a chat?
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
I swear to goodness I haven't had such a good laugh in awhile... the mere visual is well worth procuring one for myself.
