Me 8 months on, dark and trying to detach.

[BrightFuture]

HW, I’m not a vet, but I am/was in the situation like that. My H was living in our vacation home from December 2012 to May of this year. He didn’t communicate until April, except for one phone call on New Years and my call for his b-day in January. I saw him a few times during these months, when I went to our vacation place. He moved out of the condo both times when I was there. He also didn’t do anything about the bills, the house, the accounts until April. He was just having fun. He didn’t talk about R with anybody, and there was no A (according to our mutual friends over there.)

He initiated a D talk, but then back peddled later. He started separating the accounts, but only some of them.

Now, he is back to work in another state and he started contacting me about our joint business and recently he needed help with his computer.

I don’t know if he made his choice and just trying to be friends now, or he is trying to test the waters. Time will tell. I just need lots of patience now, and keep going on with my life.

I think you are doing good. You need to take care of yourself right now.