The night before my B-day, my W went to gym as usual, but then stayed out with GF until midnight. This upsets me. She actually called after the gym to say she was going out, and "wouldn't be too long" Afterwards, I think due to guilt, she becomes more loving toward me: when she comes home she hugs me (I was already in bed at midnight), kisses, etc.
I try to be detached, and I'm getting there. What she does affects me much less than it used to. So I was more distant that night and the next day. This colored my b-day. She wished me a "happy b-day in the morning". After work, my kids gave me a present that the W had bought. We ate and there was a cake that my W bought at a bakery.
Earlier in the week I made plans for a "date night" on Friday. I'm taking her to go rock-climbing. I'm following the advice of my DB coach to do couple's things and make it exciting. I was thinking of bringing up a relationship question. I was going to ask her, "What things does she see us doing in an ideal marriage between us?" Anyway, after second thoughts I will not bring up any relationship talk like that. I'll just have fun.
