things went south

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Thanks Bond.

Trickle truths are going to be the norm for awhile, so be sure you keep that in mind and don't drop your guard. I seriously suggest you both see a MC though.

Agreed about not dropping my guard. I hope there's no more trickle truth but have to be prepared if there is. I'm going to suggest MC. I'm mind reading, but I think she may may baulk at it. During our last R talk 2 weeks ago I said I thought stopping MC last year was bad idea (we did MC 7-8 times from July to Oct). The MC told us in Oct (when we agreed to reconcile) that she thought her work was done but to come back if we needed her. W agreed. I voice my concern but didn't push it to hard.

I'm going to suggest it (and/or Retro). If she gives me push back I'll tell her I'll go be myself and maybe she'll follow suit. Thoughts?

For now, when you have time alone with W, make those experiences - hyper experiences. Things that are very positive and fun. Get her to relax and start dropping her guard. You'll be able to see her demeanor change once she does. She'll talk to you more, be more comfortable, etc.

I agree. We get there some of the time, but it could better and I will do better.
I told her last week that she could be vulnerable with me. She smiled and said thanks for saying that.

Once that happens, you'll be true Piecing. Have the two of you had sex yet?

Yes, once last week, initiated by her. And once this week initiated by me.
I've changed my approach to sex but I can give more detail on that later.