hmm, I might be off moderation now?? posts seem to show up w/o the wait. So some more info:
Roughly 4-5 months ago after my kids sports trip, when I got home I got the "ILYB" speech.
She went out and started buying clothes, tanning, spending a lot of time with friends, and just wasn't there for anyone else (ie kids, work, me).
Now after doing the 180 for the last 3 weeks, with a couple of minor slips, she says she's done going out, wants to stay home, tired of her friends, doesn't want to do anything. BUT, she says she wants the marriage to get back to normal, in a kind of reverse physcology kind of way, meaning NO effort at all. I've told her I can no longer live that way, I've made all these changes (GAL'n, gym, hanging with friends), and I need more in my marriage/relationship now. I'm tired of no communication, lack of sex, rug sweeping. I told her i'd rather be divorced than in a marriage by myself.
These are probably wrong things to say, but I tried to let her know that marriage to me, because of the new me, needs to be healthy or not at all.
