"Bond did you suggest telling her she could leave ."
That was in the extreme case. I recommended that in your case, you have to start standing up for yourself. You tell her that you will not be treated and talked to like that any longer. Tell her that she's the one with the issues of not being able to deal with things in a healthy manner and that you WILL NOT be her scapegoat any longer.
"She only spew if I temp check relationship ."
You shouldn't even be talking about your relationship because you aren't in one.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.