"he said he is unhappy and he want to try and connect with me but doesn't do now how."
Dropping the OW would have been a good start for him. He's confused. Don't take it personally. This is all on him. He thinks the outside stuff is going to make him happy. It won't. Have you confronted him yet on the OW?
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.