MLC by MIL death/daughter car accident/new job

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Here are the three types of Mlcers and this was written by Sally Conway.

Your Husband's Mid-Life Crisis
By Sally Conway
Chapter 8: Life Without Him
Pages 90-92

THE DROPOUT
If your husband has dropped all communication with you or any of his family, your best course of action is not to chase after him. You may want to make sure he is well and safe, but after you know that,don't bother him. If you do, he may only run somewhere else. Or he may resent you even more. In some cases, depending on his personality and the reasons for his leaving, a husband may need to know that you care for him and that he is welcome to return home. But don't pester him. Choose the best way to let him know you care, do it, and then leave him alone. He will recover faster if you are not aggravating him.

THE DROPLET
The family who receives occasional contacts from a man who leaves, may feel wounded every time. You need to pray that God will give you special grace whenever he contacts you so you can be wise, patient, and loving. Each time your husband gets i touch with you, you are being tested. How you handle the encounter will have a lot to do with the decision he is making about whether or not to return. Again, it may not seem fair. You are under unusual stress, and yet you need to be at your best emotionally and spiritually. That is why you need to keep in vital fellowship with the Lord and some human friends.

THE DROP-IN
The man who keeps in frequent touch by telephoning and visiting seems to get his cake and have it, too. He gets to have the benefits of home and the benefits of independence. Some men who have left will walk unannounced into the house, sit down to meals, watch TV, help themselves to the food in the refrigerator, play with the children--and leave again.
You don't need to feel that you are being used and abused. Show that you want to be his best friend and provide what he needs during this time of confusion. Be sensitive to whether or not he feels like talking. But don't pressure him into deep conversation, especially about where your relationship is now, when he is coming home, and so on. It is a good sign that he at least keeps coming to the house for short times. Women who never see their husbands wold like to trade places with you.