ALF... I have not been following, but have just read your latest post. Sounds to me like you are DB'ing perfectly and truly understand how to validate. I am still learning. All I can manage is "I understand how you feel" or the occasional head nodding. I am going to take notes from your post above. Keep up the good work!
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)