I struggle with giving advice on this site bc i think that these are big, big decisions and need to come from deep within someone's own heart and soul.
what i can offer to you instead... is asking you what you need to do now for RT?...if the focus is on you and your own singular life, what do you do now? your W appears to be on a seesaw of sorts going up and down from moment to moment and focusing on her will give you motion sickness.
there is no right or wrong answer and i am not advocating for you to do or not do anything... this is the time to look deeply into your own fears, your own patterns, your own thoughts and feelings, your own heart... and make conscious choices.
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Me(f): 51 W: 41 DP:8 M:3 T:10 "W not happy" 7/11 D final: 8/13