New to This - An English Man In Trouble

[Hadlee58]

Thanks Fartiltre some great words of wisdom there that are much appreciated. I take great comfort in knowing there is others out there like me and i am not alone.
I know at this stage its all about me and i have had a lot of time to think of waht i need to improve and am working through them, I am fitter today than i have ever been which has given me some real energy however like most this gets drained quickly from time to time. I am trying to show a man who she would never want to leave and in the past i would have done everything to please her, i am different now and realise that couldnt be sustained.
My mind is telling me i have a few weeks until she moves out and i should be doing everything to keep her to stay but you are right work on myself is the priority.
I have gave myself a pat on the back this morning as last night i never mentioned our situation at all, polite and nice, listened to her (really listened!!) when she spoke and kept myself busy with the gym and reading my book, when she went to bed she asked me if i would like to go to her mothers 65th birthday celebration tonight as they had asked, i did press if she wanted me to go but she said it was up to me.... I have made plans for tonight (which i told her) but mentioned i would call in for a short while. Part of me wants to walk in head high full of confidence and show that i can do it. Much as i dread seeing all her family maybe this is an ideal window for me to show i am moving on...
Do you think this is a good idea?

Thanks again hopefully we can support each other, i will check through your threads today.

Looking forward to the weekend!!!!