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[Underdog]

Girlfriend,

I have to comment here because I see something important for you to flag.

First of all, I'm NOT a nocturnal person, so I was right with you every step of the way. I would also be irritated if Mr. W. were to do that. But Mr. Wonderful is an early morning person, so any nocturnal behaviors he exhibits are pretty much unhealthy ones.

Your H, on the other hand, IS a nocturnal person. This isn't bad, Myrrh. Just different than you.

Here's the memo to you to put under your pillow:

Go to bed, fall asleep and just stay there. Your H likes staying up until wee hours of the morning. God knows why because I don't, but it seems to suit him just fine. If it's preventing him from spending time with you (and maybe the is affected), then you have cause for alarm.

However, he played EQ with you until fairly late (in my books, cuz I'm old) and kept in touch with you. Then he brought some gifts home.

It's time to leave poor D alone! I know you love him and worry about him, and that is so natural, but he's a big boy and he obviously feels comfy in his own skin. Unless he takes issue with your less nocturnal behaviors, you are doing FINE! And I think you're pretty comfy in your own skin too.

Being different is good, as long as we honor those differences.

Here, I'm sending you a pack of chill pills. Relax! You're A-OK.

Hugs,

Bets