My world got turned upside down

[BrightFuture]

Limbo, I’m kind of on the same boat right now. After a long silence my H started contacting me again. It is mostly for business, but I feel that he uses it as an excuse. I thought that I was moving on with my life, but now I’m confused again. H is separating some of the joint accounts, but at the same time wants to have the same computer software (WTH?) and wants me to help him with his computer. I decided that I’m going to be nice until I don’t feel it anymore. Your H’s behavior resembles some of the behavior of my H last year, after the BD. I’ve learnt later that this was because my H was not decided 100% about what he was doing. Your H sounds this way too.

The only advice I can give you is do not be too available to him. I think that Father’s day should be scaled down. Let the kids do things for him, if they feel like it. I would just acknowledge him, but would not do anything special. Let him feel the consequences of his decisions.