Saw your response to LTH. And you are right on. I know I am coming off easy...but trust me, I was where you were in April. It is extremely hard to walk away from everything. Your W, kids, home, ect...but your not really walking away. As a matter of fact, you can use this time to become close to the kids without crowding the W.
As you have read...theres no point trying to understand the WAS. As you stated, they began detaching months, if not years prior to BD. The script they speak of is pretty common, and heart breaking for we LBS's who were clueless prior to BD. All those good times? Great nights? Great sex? Yeah...they dont remember them at all. But they do remember every single thing that annoys them about you, and every slight you ever made. This is why LRT is so important. No amount of persuing will bring them back.
Me-45,W-36 M-12 yrs, T-15 years SS- 16 Nov 2003 Initial B date, 2-3 others since EA/PA OM 2003-2004 Reconciled 2004 May 2013 Final BD, W completely detaches W files D June 2013 I am moving out 26 July 2013