"I still subscribe to "as ye sow- so shall ye reap)" don't know why- want to stop sometimes - but plug forward being WHO I AM - and trying to not judge.

hang on- & hope your day if nice. at least we can be glad to be alive and sane & healthy - can't we???"


hi Nero! Nice to meet you! I'm not sure our MLCers will ever reap anything like the havoc they are sewing. I truly hope that my H wakes up someday, and realizes at least some of the pain and destruction he caused. But from what I've been reading, don't think we can expect them to remember much. The whole thing makes me glad to be healthy and sane too!

"He touched a little bit on the stories of FILs As, but I am not about to get into a discussion about As with H. I can't keep my cool on that topic. This leads to him saying "What is wrong with you!! You have a problem!!" 

And it is a big problem to me. Very very big and huge and insurmountable. "Deal breaker" in the lingo of the day. 

If I were to continue M, it would have to be a big deal to H as well . Not something to be swept under the rug, not something to pretend never happened - and start with a "clean slate".

Ok, can't go down that road right now, I have stuff to do"


Mz. Jay if your H said  "What is wrong with you!! You have a problem!!" NOW during a discussion about the morality of affairs, it would just be his scrambled egg MLC brain speaking.  If he said that AFTER popping out of the rabbit hole though, now THAT would be a deal breaker. At the right time, you will discuss this, he will ask for forgiveness, you will forgive and THEN the two of you will have a clean slate to start again with. 

Please put this thought and conversation away for now and go back to observing tweeting birds ok?

A car festival sounds fun! Have a good time. Did you find out about S16 making facebook social news? 


Linda

Me 65, Ex 64
M 38 y
2 adult S, 4 G-Kids
MLC 11/07
BD 12/09
D 3/14
Dating nice guy 7/14
Engaged to nice guy 12/17