Me 8 months on, dark and trying to detach.

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Nice moment last night when I rang S20, after a few minutes chatting he mentioned he was at girlfriends Auntie's for dinner. I apologised and said I will call later as it is very rude for me to keep chatting while he is visiting. He then rang me back about an hour later. Nice feel good moment. He asked about this weekend's party for the FIL 70th, and I mentioned it will be good for S20 to see his mum. Something come up about me not being there, and I mentioned I wasn't invited. This seemed to be quite a shock to him, I think he expected I just didn't want to go, rather than not being invited. Anyway the subject was stopped, by simply saying that it isn't my choice and I can accept other people's choices.
Still we started to make plans for the school holidays in 1 week's time. So looking forward to it.

* As a simple question, especially to the vets, has there been any sitch's similar to mine where the WAS simply doesn't want to communicate, see each other or even organise selling of houses, over a length of time. While it is not causing issues with me, I just wonder why the total shut down of the W. Not initiating anything, not wanting to see each other, and her not wanting to talk to anyone about the M. I really don't feel there is an A going on, but it still seems so strange, and I just don't see any similarities with anyone else here. Is it simply that some WAS just reach a spot where there is simply no chance in hell of anything being better? Do some WAS simply make a choice and keep to it?
Again it is not an issue, just simply questions I cannot ask anywhere else? Or if I have asked (marriage counsellor), they really cannot reason why she is behaving this way for so long.
I cannot even put her in the group of MLC, though an Empty Nester sounds a better group for her.