Lovethehub, I'm glad you wrote the post. It gave me some additional insight. I wish my W would have told me just how unhappy she was earlier in our marriage. I missed all the signs and when she finally told me it then seems too late to correct.. I just don't understand why it has to be so final or how you can love someone just 6 months ago and then erase all good memories and change the course of your entire life in a seeming instant. I just thought we were in a phase and would work through the issues.....I was wrong. Nothing occurred between us that I want to get a divorce over. I really need to emotionally detach from W. Every time we interact she's able to emotionally break me all over again. Letting go seems like more of a process than an event. It's filled with memories, identity, co-dependency, companionship, support, and comfort not to mention the loss of seeing my DD's every day, my home, and possessions. There is a sense of comfort in a persons home that I've taken for granted. It's a refuge from the outside world that's not easily recreated. Sorry for rambling...my mind is racing and won't stop. I know my wife is manipulating/testing me on a regular basis with her words and actions. She knows me sometimes better than I know myself.
