All I can tell you is...it does get better. The first weeks after my BD I wallowed in self pity, and pain. But I started GAL'ing, and focusing on me instead of my WAW. I started doing hobbies I put off, going to the gym, and going out on my own.
Am I 100%...no sir. But, I have made significant improvements and increased my self worth and confidence. Of course it helped that a young lady took notice of me. I didnt act on it, but it proved that there was life after D from the W, and that I didnt have to be afraid, nor tethered to someone who no longer loved me. That neediness disappeared.
I still wait at a distance for my WAW to come around, but at this time I expect nothing. Just give your W space, and when she speaks...listen to her, really listen, and validate her feelings...even if they hurt you. Put your best face forward, especially around the kids. Make sure your dressed up in new clothes and groomed. Be the man your W wants to be around.
I am hoping things turn out for the best for you...but take care of yourself first...and the rest may fall into place.
Me-45,W-36 M-12 yrs, T-15 years SS- 16 Nov 2003 Initial B date, 2-3 others since EA/PA OM 2003-2004 Reconciled 2004 May 2013 Final BD, W completely detaches W files D June 2013 I am moving out 26 July 2013
