Clear goals and a vision for the future

[Lyrael]

Betsey and Mer-
That's pretty much what I thought you guys would say - *hugs* all around.
Okay- positives...
1) My H is making sure I always know where he is and what he's doing - definitely working at the trust/dependability thing.
2) He is making an effort to pick up his dirty clothes, etc.
3) I get lots of snuggles and love when he does get home - enough to keep me VERY happy.
4) We can talk about the stuff that's going on without the convo's completely devolving into a screaming match/insult hurling session.
5) We are both FIRMLY committed to our marriage now, and to making it work.
6) He is meeting me halfway on my efforts to become more understanding, by listening and validationg my feelings (even if he can't always work out the behavior).
7) HE'S HOME!!!!!
8) We are doing a lot of dreaming/planning for the future together!

Whew - now my cauldron is bubbling with PMA! And you are very right Bets, about me having quite enough strife on my own - I even have to be careful which threads I visit, so I don't inadvertently set off my own little pot of rage/resentment/anxiety - I think this is part of what led to the blowup.

You two, don't ever underestimate how much support you've given me over the past month or two. Having a solid cheering section has done me and my M more good than you can know. I couldn't have gotten this far without you!

Hughughug,
Myrrh

P.S> I do love my SOB H . He's a nice fishie most of the time - I think I need to get a new plant for his pond.