Hi, I am intrigued by the ying/yang, Cain/Able, Tom/Jerry? haha relationship you guys have. I wish I could be as direct with my anger at times, but then I'd probably be writing this from some mental ward or solitary cell..
It sure seems to me you are being played. Who does this guy think he is with all the passive/agressive s**t he is pulling. As strong as you are, will you please just step back and define some boundaries for this guy? Coming by and just dropping dirty laundry in the middle of the floor is such a demeaning thing to do. It borders on degrading.
There comes a time when I don't care how much you think you love the SOB, there are things you have to stand up for. With his attitude, he is not seeing such a wonderful Flylady, he is seeing someone he is able to control and walk on. Time to show that you are a loving, but now a very firm partner in this M.
Could some of your anger be because you are allowing this, and perpetuating the sitch..? There are guys out here that would love to be in a R with someone like you, with that spunk and vitality. Your H doesn't see what he has now.
Maybe it's time to not only set those boundaries, but go a little dark on him and let him see what he will be missing. Not on his terms, on yours. He is such a putz... Thanks for letting me vent all over this guy. Take a stand, you deserve better than what you are getting right now.
