Is it too soon to give up hope?

[2ndtimearoundCA]

So I met with my ex (still wife but physically separated) for drinks las night. We had fun. When she dropped the bomb in February she was angry and we didn't really talk. I was temporarily out of work when she left and our intimacy had been less than great for some time. But I didn't think that she was close to leaving me. She was a walk away wife. I had left for a weekend with friends and when I came back she wanted out. So last night she gave me information about her situation. She claims to be broken and is ok with being broken. She is leading a very wild lifestyle right now and is enjoying herself on the surface. She is drinking a lot and showing other destructive behavior that she didn't show while we were together. I guess this is a midlife crisis for her.

She says that she loves me and will always love me but is not in love with me. But she is definitely seeking me out as a friend. While the "loves but is not in love" statement is clear, some of her other actions make it seem like she is sending mixed messages. Part of me feels like she is reaching out for help but when I start to offer she pushes me away. She claims to be broken and is ok with being broken.

I have already done periods of no contact and given her lots of space. I have worked on myself and I detached for a while. As our communication has picked up I feel myself getting more and more attached to her again. Not sure what to do next. I don't know if the friendship could grow into love again.