Husband has one foot out the door!

[chasingpavements]

Here's the complaints my husband had when he dropped the bomb, (and afterwards) and here is what I am doing about it currently:
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~too dependant: I have been trying to solve problems on my own more, trying to fix it instead of asking him, running more errands myself instead of asking him to, for example, getting groceries
~don't like driving: have been driving more often and running errands
~feels I don't trust him: haven't been asking about his whereabouts or any questions like that
~feels I am too stressed about work & kids: when he gets home if I am stressed I am trying to stay positive and focus on the good parts of the day rather than mentioning to him if the kids acted out, and also mentioning to him the positive things/cute things the kids did during the day. I am also trying to stop the nagging him to do things around the house, and asking in a nicer tone if I need help with the children.
~feels he doesn't get enough time to work in basement: trying to give him more space and time to work in the basement

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I have also been sticking to sandi's rules, and I have stuck with my 180's that I mentioned earlier on in this thread.

So far the results have been positive so I am going to keep at it!

If anyone else has any suggestions please let me know!
thanks!