RT, there are so many positives in your interacdtions. Your W is somewhat responsive which is a good thing. So unlike my DXW who moved like a glacier. And now nearly over 8 years later, that glacier has now thawed considerably.
Take it from me, it is perfectly okay and reasonable to constantly dwell on the OW/OP and W/H when your world has recently been blown apart. In my case, I constantly thought about DXW and the OW for almost 3 or 4 months straight. Then these thoughts eventually faded away to a lesser extent. The fresh feelings of BD, finding out about the A, and DBing inevitably causes us to dwell on the OW/OP because of the deep sense of betrayal inflicted on our psyches.
Even to this day, I work hard to swat away thoughts about the OW when they crop up unexpectantly. BUT the constant dwelling on them has long, long faded away into the mists.
