Clear goals and a vision for the future

[Lyrael]

Hi, all! Haven't had time to post yet today -it's been a busy one.
Well, I logged off of Everquest at about 11/11:30 last night, picked up in our bedroom somewhat, finished my Flylady before-bed routine, and put myself to bed! I did NOT call H after midnight (although I did call him before I went to bed to wish him good night and remind him that I'd be leaving in the morning -I did NOT mention him coming home or what time or anything). I did do my Flylady stuff, got everything ready to go to the laundromat today.

H told me yesterday (out of the blue - he hadn't said anything when I mentioned today's plans earlier in the week) that he was planning on going in to the shop at 10 this morning. I almost told him I would cancel, but I went ahead with my trip to the laundromat, even when he gave me a little guilt trip on the way out the door. This is another pattern I had forgotten that needed to change, and I think I'm doing nicely - letting him fulfill his responsibilities so I can fulfill mine. I did (this is so embarassing) about 15 loads of laundry - thank heaven for giant, 5-load capacity washers and dryers. I was only there for about 2 1/2 hours.

I didn't get to go to lunch, because my friend M got called into work, but hopefully she and I will hook back up at some point. It is a positive change for me to make dates with friends, so I'll keep working at that.

H came home about 1:45 last night, a little earlier than usual, and told me he had even had to go retrieve his cars license plates from the car he dragged over to a mechanic friends house to have it repaired. He also told me that the people that gave him a ride to do that asked him if he wanted to go out to the bars with them (not a usual thing for him, but still) and he turned them down to come home instead. Not being naggy worked last night.

I am a little scared of him maybe trying to test me by staying out ultra-late one night, and that will be VERY hard for me, so I am probably not in the clear for good hear, but very proud of myself nonetheless.

Day 2 of the current experiment is going well - he hung out here til almost 2pm, and then only left because the shop called and said he had some clients (piercings are a walk-in thing). So, he spent more time with me the day I didn't nag him. I'll just keep trying this for awhile and monitoring my results.

Hugs to all,
Myrrh