Have looked into doing some volunteer work in our area ... it would be a 180 for me as one of my main problems (and she's brought this up a couple of times but never really nagged about it) is putting others before myself. It's not in an arrogant fashion or anything, but I would think if it doesn't impact me what's the big deal. I have a few friends who do things like this and they tell me how good it feels to have a positive impact on the lives of others. My wife is among the most selfless people I know, so it would be a big change for me.
Whether or not she notices isn't the main point (though is something I hope for) -- I'm trying to make myself a better person for whatever the future may hold.
Me 47 W 44 T 17 years, M 15 years D13, D10 March 2013 -- broke a trust/cheated late May 2013 -- W spoke of separation for first time June 2013 -- began reading DB
