Thanks for the advice Cadet i have read it many times before and i am trying my best it seems the right thing! My mind is totally gone at the moment and i am consumed by this whole situation and am on some rollercoaster ride at the moment. A quick update: We cleared the air on monday night and after the kids went to bed we sat and talked like never before until the early hours, it felt so right (although i probably admit i did most of the talking!!). I promised her i would never beg to go back to the way things were before and thought if we know the issues it would be worth one last go to try to fix them, she never said yes or no and sent me a text the following day saying it was great to talk and she has lots to think about, maybe some encouraging signs?? Spoke again last night and again good although i think i need to step back now as you have said (difficult though it may be). I dont think she has yet signed for another house but i am afraid to ask so am still stuck in lala land. Not planning on bringing it up again tonight unless she does. I am GAL 'ing' at the moment and run every night (fitter than i have been for years!!) and try to portray that i am moving on although that i find so difficult.
Thanks Again, i will keep updating as it seems to help me to do this
Me: 39 W: 33 Son:7 Daughter:4 Its Over: March 7th 2013 Moved back home Mid June, trying to make it work