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In a way I feel like confronting him because I am trying to protect myself so I do not get hurt anymore,


This would be acting out of fear. And think about it, would it guarantee that you wouldn't get hurt anymore?

I understand concern about your finances. One of the best things you can do to protect yourself is to consult an attorney. This of course does not mean at all that you would have to file, but an attorney can offer you knowledge, which is power, and legal protection.

Emotional protection, that comes from YOU. smirk Be nice if Amazon carried it, but no dice lol. You protect yourself by detaching, GALing, doing 180s.

You're doing good HWY. But, I sense you have an attitude of "waiting", and that can be dangerous. Sort of like you're holding your breath, or walking on eggshells, hoping this will make him stay. That's ok in the beginning, but what you want to work toward is becoming so whole and healthy that you feel ok whether he stays or not.

Do consider getting professional advice regarding finances. And come up with a plan of sorts. So that you KNOW you will be ok no matter what. Doesn't mean you wouldn't be BETTER if he stays, but you'll be ok either way. This will take some of your panic away, and panic often leads us to making poor choices.

Keep up the good work!! smile

Me 46 H 56
M 22 yrs
S22, D20, Twin Ss18

You teach people how to treat you by what you allow.
What you stop.
And what you reinforce.
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A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.