Thanks for the advice, IS. I am really struggling with this.
Since there had been no D talk in a few weeks, and I was getting into a good DBing groove for the first time, I felt like I was making some progress. Our interactions were better and she was opening up a little. While I knew this day was probably coming (her confirming she wants a divorce), it hurts more than I thought. I am clearly not detached. I don't even feel like I am close.
M:34 W:36 M:10 T:15 D:9 S:5 BD:12/12 Worked on the M for 6 mo before W saying it was over 5/13.