My mother is dying. XW wants to be my friend.

[AJM]

Hey Tad. Glad to hear your mom is getting treatments. I hope that goes better than expected. Everyone reacts differently to the treatments. My sister has been going through similar for brain and spine tumors. Tore me up but it's far harder on her and her family. She responded very well to the treatments and I think she is finding that the rehab is much harder than the treatments which is a little surprising. So far so good.

XW gets married this Saturday. I feel weird......The other day, I ALMOST felt a sense of relief about the whole thing. Kind of strange if you ask me.

It is a little "different" and "weird" after the many years of different. But try not to feel guilty about feeling relieved. I know that sounds odd, but it's part of it. I did same when I first heard. It happens fast and in some ways slowly. But either way, the only remaining part is for you to do. You need to find that way through to accepting what is. That doesn't mean talking to her or anything like that. Just recognizing and accepting. Accepting that she is not the same person. That some people will reconnect with her for their own reasons. Some won't. With any luck, your kids will. Outside of that, you are not responsible for any of it, so let it go.

Drop those things that aren't helpful to you to let go.

By the way, planning a trip to Mesa in a few months. Are you far from there?


AJ