I have to agree with you and Mer here. If calling him after midnight is a trouble spot--knowing you're pissed and likely to act that way--then this is a good rule for you.
This doesn't mean you don't EVER get to address the PA issues. It just means you put them on a back burner until you've made some progress in your own areas and can monitor what happens with your H as a result.
Got it? Don't worry about him and his behaviors. Working on your own will give you a much better compass in what works and what doesn't.
GO you!
Bets
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
