Portia, I don't believe there are any hard or fast rules as to when to reach out again. Every sitch is different, and you know your's much better than we do. The only time you must not reach out, is if he gives you the brush off, which he clearly did not do.

Just keep any contact light and friendly. Avoiding asking any questions at this delicate time. This relieves him of any pressure to respond. Keep plenty of time between contact: this keeps you out of the pursuing role. Then, if he does respond, you'll know there is still something there.

I couple of ideas would be to send him a link to an article you thought he might like, or tell him about something going on in your life, or something you found funny. "I thought you might be interested in this..."

If he replies, gradually build on it. If he doesn't, give him more time.

Originally Posted By: snodderly

Portia, please do not put your life on hold or wait for him. If he is truly meant to be w/you and he wakes up and realizes that he wants to be w/you, then he'll had to do some major paddling to catch up w/you. He's the one that has to earn your trust back big time. For now, Portia, live your life to the fullest. Time stands still for no one.


I totally agree with this. The better life you make for yourself without him, the more attractive you will become to him. Our partners know us like a book... they can tell if our "GAL" is real or fake. You have to make it real!

M: A really long time.
Crisis: 5 years.
She's still worth it.

Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl