Stuck between a rock and a hard place!

[dorightman]

To be fair, you didn't give her a choice. It was "I'm moving back, take it or leave it".

Right, I messed up, point taken.

Just dropping things off without telling her doesn't seem very conscious.

I was aware of the fact that it was wrong. I had no other choice in the moment. I had time constraints and pressure to leave town for work. Where I went wrong was in not discussing it with w before hand.

More excuses. You were there with her, that's all you needed. Bottom line is I think you were afraid.

Yes there was some fear involved.

Go back and read the "she doesn't" part. She has no guarantee, but you expect her to deal with it.

Yes, I want to prove to her that I'am not going to make her feel unsafe anymore. I'am in control of myself and will not freak out in front of her anymore. If she has a problem with me being here, I will deal with it. In fact, her response after the initial anger was acceptance and she gave me instructions to take care of the kids more and to take on more family responsibilities. I'am happy to oblige.

Thank you Bond. I respect your opinions and I thank you for taking the time to respond to me.

My plan is to be as helpful as possible to my family. To be the best father and friend to my w as possible. To listen to my w, and honor her wishes to the best of my ability. To stop acting in controlling ways. To stop acting in selfish and erratic ways. To give her as much space and time as she needs. She has the right to date other people without my judgement. I love her and my kids Bond. They are everything to me.