Clear goals and a vision for the future

[Lyrael]

Thanks, Pattie and Bill, for the wonderful words of encouragement.
Last night went smoothly (much to my surprise). I managed to do most of my Flylady missions for the evening, and I actually made a really tasty dinner (honey mustard chicken and mashed potatoes) and cleaned up afterwards and did some other dishes, too. S went to bed peacefully at about 8pm, and I took about an hour for myself, reading and just relaxing. Then I decided I missed the H and called him to see what he was up to. He was logged onto the game we play together (which henceforth on this thread shall be known as Everquest, or EQ) and so I told him I'd like to log in.

We played together until about 1 (later than my goal of only midnight, but we were spending time together). Then I logged off to get ready and go to bed. He did a few things at the shop and then came home. We (that's happening with astonishing frequency now), and I don't mind it a bit!
Anyway - he still came home late, but I always know where he is and how to get in touch with him, something that I really appreciate on his part.He's really working hard to let me know what's going on in his daily life. You're right about the lack of trust, Pattie.

Sometimes it takes work for me to believe he'll come home at all. I keep waiting fo rhim to walk out again, but then I remember that our sitch is SO much different than it was when he left. I am so much different than when he left. I am committed to my marriage all the way, instead of just half-heartedly. And he is meeting me halfway on almost everything.
For being PA/ADD, he's doing an okay job, mostly. I keep reminding myself that building our marriage back up will take time. But things were calm last night and this morning, except when I crabbed at him for not getting to the phone in time (he called me crabby and I made little crab claws and pinched him - that's just how we are ). I told him he was right, I was mean and need to be more patient with him. I said I was sorry, and we kissed each other before I left. I need lots more days like this before I feel safe, but we're on our way! WOOHOOO!!!
Myrrh