Good feedback, MrBond. May I call you James? Sorry, I couldn't resist.
Quote:
I know a number of couples like this. The lower desire partner truly understands how important sex is to the spouse so they accommodate. Once they set their mind into enjoying it, they actually did.
Yes, I've heard that many times on talk shows, even from those women themselves. They don't want sex, but once they just go ahead an do it anyway, they find themselves enjoying. Even the Michelle behind this whole website has often called it the "Nike philosophy", namely "just do it". Well, that sure ain't my wife, unfortunately. Except for a couple of "honeymoon years", it's been more a case of her wanting me to finish up reasonably quickly without being too obvious. Just doing it did nothing for her.
It's been kind of depressing to have none of the standard advice work over the years. Yet we somehow get along quite well. I think it's because we've learned to separate this issue from everything else that we appreciate. I no longer see it as a personal thing.
