Hi StungBT,
I know how it feels to hear new from outside sources about your H and OW. It affected me as if it was happening all over again.

First thing, take care of yourself. How?
Stop people when they want to give you unsolicited information. Change the subject abruptly. Tell me you'd rather not talk about it. Walk away if they're persistent. This will help you take care of yourself. I stopped talking to people because they felt this burning desire to give me this information. All it did was hurt me tremendously and piled on the resentment I already had against H.

So for now, take care of yourself. got it?

Next, about Hs mood swings. He's like a tornado. You have no idea which direction he's going to go. If you allow his behavior to affect you then you've just gotten sucked into his tornado. He's going to spit out venom cuz in his immature mind he blames you for everything. He believes you're this oh so powerful woman that can make him happy and angry. He has no clue that he controls his emotions.

Thinking of you stungbt!


M 42 H 39
T10 (-2yrs separation)
S8 D5
DD 7/30/11 (EA&PA)
Reconciled 6/2013
Separation in works 1/2017