I have been biting my tongue about something for a while with wife. Today when I picked up daughter I let it out. I asked her why she hasn't told me she was dating. This is something we discussed being very open about, previously. She said she saw no reason for telling me. I said that was fine and I understood her reasoning. I validated her and gave her some words of affirmation by saying "any guy in the world would be happy to have you on his arm. make sure you choose the very best. you deserve it".
From that point it got shakey via text. She asked how I knew, and it opned up a small can of worms...or maybe it didn't. I don't know. I told her I knew from a friend of ours telling me, the same friend that set them up and lied to me that she didn't. This is the same friend from my previous posts that is a compulsive liar and sneak. I keep calling her friend, but she is no friend of mine. She has however become W's new BFF. I told wife to just be guarded around her and that she hasn't changed her spots, which she hasn't. She has thrown wife under the bus on several occasions, even flaking out on our wedding (she was supposed to be a bridesmaid).
Now, this is probably a conversation I SHOULD have avoided, but I had it. I don't have regrets about it. It's the truth. I ended by telling wife "I wasn't trying to pry. It's no big deal. I want you to be happy with whoever you choose to be with. I really and truly do. I wish I would have realized how you deserve to be treated when I had the chance". We closed shortly after with talk about the house and her saying, thank you.
Not sure what to make of that, but I honestly feel I need to get my feet back under me in regards to walking on egg shells. I just feel so uncomfortable around wife now, and I hate it.
