"Having been through the part of our relationship where I had to work harder and harder to generate any interest on her part, I've come to not enjoy that mode of a sexual relationship."
That's understandable. It doesn't seem as if she makes an effort.
"So I don't find myself particularly inspired by those TV and magazine relationship experts who say that foreplay starts in the morning and lasts all day, and that if I take out the garbage, take care of the kids, and take my wife out for a nice candlelight dinner, then it's going to result in sex."
I actually know many couples like this. The problem isn't the "couple" it's your W.
"But going back a step, I kind of resent the advice that well, at our age, we couldn't possibly expect to be the love rabbits we were when we got married. Excuse me, she had no orgasms then either. But at least she was interested. And why can't we still be like rabbits?"
There's nothing wrong with that. Again, it's because of your W that your relationship isn't like that.
"I don't know couples like that make it last. It's bad enough to feel like your sexual desires are going to be an imposition on someone else."
I know a number of couples like this. The lower desire partner truly understands how important sex is to the spouse so they accommodate. Once they set their mind into enjoying it, they actually did. But it all comes from that. You will manifest what your mind sets up. Your W doesn't feel like sex is important (even though it is to you), so she doesn't bother with it. Again, it seems pretty selfish. But that's just my opinion.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
