Thought I Was Piecing, Now I'm Detaching II

[MrBond]

"Makes complete sense. One thing that is very frustrating from a hubby perspective is she expects me to mind read."

She doesn't "expect" you to mindread. She just feels that since you've been going out for so long that you should know how she feels. All married couples go through that. YOu need to tell her that you CAN'T mindread every time she brings it up. Because she refuses to go to C, this pattern will always continue until she "gets it".

"If she is hurt or something bothers her she will not state it or if she does weeks later after festering. She does this to avoid conflict. She also will NOT ask for help ever. "

But that's HER choice. If she snaps at you weeks after something had happened, tell her that you need to know when it happens and not after. And that you are not responsible for something that she's upset about when you don't even know she's upset. Tell her that until she actually communicates with you, things will remain the same.

"how long do MLC's typically last?"

You do understand that an MLC IS NOT a disease. It's a life transition. If your W was really in an MLC, she's in a state of flux right now. YOU have to call her out on bad behaviors and beliefs that she's changing right now. If you don't, she will continue to take out her frustrations on you.