I realize that since my W stopped talking separation and said she plans on staying married, that I have let off on some of my DB-ing. My biggest issue is being unable to detach. My DB coach talked with me about the 5LL book and filling my W's love tank. I've been doing this as best I can.
What I observe is that my W does things and says things that are positive and get my hopes up. Then she does/says things that get my hopes down. I probably read too much into every little thing. Also, my expectations are too high -- as everyone says a MLC takes a long time to run its course.
Some examples of good signs: W said how I looked better than all my younger sailing buddies; W reached out and held my hand on weekend when we were walking in town.
Some examples of bad signs: W went out with GF after gym and didn't come home until almost midnight. W was moody all Sunday while we did errands as a family -- as if she would rather be someplace else.
