What am I doing wrong 25? I really want to know. I mean I am working on the issues that I "think" I need to work on, but you keep pointing out that I am not getting there. You keep saying that I haven't changed, or my changes aren't true or that they are superficial. Trust me, that is NOT what I want to work towards. I just don't know how to act, I guess. I feel differently. I process differently. I know that for sure. I feel like I am becoming a better person. BUT, how do I become a husband only a fool would leave? How do I express that? How do I make that part of a relationship that is no longer open to me? I am giving my wife space. I am not lashing out on emotion. I am not judging her or trying to manipulate her. I am upbeat and friendly. I am readily helpful when asked. I don't argue. I am more active socially. These are all of the 180's she has complained about. So what else do I need to work on? Seeing things in a negative light is something I know needs attention. I am focusing on that, but what else? What am I doing so wrong?
How EXACTLY should I be dealing with this anniversary? I asked the question because I didn't know. I got answers from both sides of the spectrum, from "do nothing" to give "flowers". I was also told to do what I think is right. I really thought about it, and well I don't know what it right. That is why I asked. TBH, I think just me asking for input about such a thing is somewhat loving and caring. I obviously care. I want to do what is best for all parties involved. I just obviously don't know what is right or I wouldn't be on Divorce busters trying to figure my life out in the first place. I am just confused.
