Have you figured out WHY you've been picking these guys? Promiscuous alcoholics? What made you look at them and think "Now, THERE'S a good idea"?
You've got to get to the bottom of that before you go back out dating again. Why are you sabotaging yourself in this way?
After MY divorce, I dated a string of unavailable guys. Emotionally Love Avoidant types, or else just way way too young. At first I thought it was just the luck of the draw, but now I see that those guys were attractive to me because, after the trauma of my divorce, I didn't really WANT a full-fledged relationship. Those guys were "safe" because they were guaranteed not to ask more from me than I was prepared to give.
