The D is a consequence of the mistakes. You can't accept one and not the other.
The D is not an inherent consequence of the mistakes. It was how she chose to react to them. You are excusing her from any responsibility for this sitch.
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You do understand that people who get into an A, usually do so because they didn't get some emotional need met at home, right?
Blame the victim?
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In her mind she didn't have a choice. She didn't think you were going to change so she did it on her own.
You're mindreading. And mindreading somebody you don't even know.
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Because she knew how you were going to act.
Mindreading and assuming. You don't know her or me.
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Again, because she knew how you were going to act.
See above.
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YOu did say that your family friend caused a scene with her right? She's scared and trying to protect herself.
Like I've said, you haven't read my posts. It was not a family friend. It was somebody my father (and occasionally myself in the distant past) had a business relationship with.
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Again, because she doesn't want to deal with you and potentially your outbursts. That's just the way it is. You can't argue with what and how she wants to feel.
Mindreading.
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Maybe she doesn't want to see them. Sandi recommended a book before "The Walk Away Wife". It may help you to read that.
Amazon does not have a book by that name.
Mr. Bond, I don't find your posts to be very helpful. To be frank, I find you abrasive, arrogant, hypocritical, and I think you're too in love with the idea of yourself as some sort of "tough love" guru swinging his clue-by-four around, dispensing wisdom from on high. You don't know my sitch and you don't know me as well as you would like to think you do.
