So sitch sux, it is what it is and what DB had taught me--find a solution.
Next course of action:
-keep the changes I've done for myself (its an everyday work but hey the goal is to be a new man right)
- Stay put - no matter how tough it gets don't abandon the kids and not leave the marital home.
- Stay firm and keep the boundary - that means NC with OM while we live together, she can contact him but not on my watch, she has to move out. I will call her out every time she has an contact with him. She can keep it underground for all I care but at least the evidence won't be staring at me and the kids' face.
- in home, continue LRT, let her initiate all contact, do not kiss her a$$, earn her respect.
- Nesting custody - temporary solution when we separate.
- Sell the house (when she files for D) - mom and dad to will have separate homes "clean break" what Adinva was referring to.
- and of course the goal is still to bust D, in event of R, will seek a solution focus MC.
Newman
me40; W43 M18; T~20 D18; S13 & S3 bomb 5/9/11 EA busted 4/30/12; 9/4/12; 4/29/13; 6/10/13 same OM
Separated 4/1/14
"Even a flicker of light will shine through darkness-12/25/2012"....better days ahead.
