Say What??

[chasingpavements]

Hi 2chiquitos...I am new here but I thought I would offer some support.. I hear you when you are talking about your H and him being gone 4 evenings out of the week from 6pm onward... it is so hard with children, and that is the busiest time in the house, with dinner, bedtimes, homework, etc. Your children are at a very busy age, where you need help! I have 3 young children myself, twin 6 year olds and a 4 year old, so I know exactly how much the extra support is needed around the house. My H is an "almost WAS", he is thinking of separating. And right now all he is wanting to do in the evenings is work away in the basement, of course while I am tending to the children!! And of course, you look like the bad guy if you try to ask them to help out, they will bring it up later that they never got to do what they wanted!

Hopefully you can come up with some sort of compromise with him, where he helps more in another area, ie/helps before he leaves to go out, or works a day less per week, or takes the kids to an outing on the weekends, or something like that.

As for the email with the subject "Thinking of you", I would be wary of that as well, as it seems fishy, as well as the whole story about the brother. You are not going crazy, that story does not seem believable, and hopefully he has agreed to NC with her!!