Not confused...looking inward

[BRNR]

I would tend not to give him anything until he coughed up the funds for his obligations to his children. But, that's just me.

I have already come to this determination that I am not. He has actually asked for other things before and I haven't. Keys to the house, pictures, tax returns, money he feel he is owed, keys to his car (which we jointly own), etc, etc...I haven't given him not a one, and I will continue to ignore his request for things. The way I see it, once we are divorced, then he can have those things should it be part of the settlement at that time. SMH.

If he's living w/the ow or has a place of his own and she's coming around, he should be able to go out and purchase items for his own place. After all, he walked out and wanted his freedom to do whatever. This is where they have to learn how to live on their own w/o "mom" being there to take care of everything. It's like when a child threatens to runaway and then goes outside and hides in a tent. They soon learn that all of those frills at home were actually quite good and come back inside. Your h needs to come to that realization at well.

I agree. Why ask me? Go ask your new "love". I don't say it, but think often. I sometimes take it as a good sign, but then I shake myself and say NO...it is all BAD, BAD, BAD, and self entitlement BS.

I still have hope for your situation, but I still wouldn't sit around and wait on him. I would continue on w/my life and enjoy the time you spend w/your children. You can move forward and enjoy life and still leave the door ajar. You will know if and when you are ready to call it quits.

Snodderly Thank you. I don't feel like I am waiting in the physical sense, maybe more my heart though. I have no interest in men, even though I have been approached. I hope this will change at some point. And I do hope that I will "know"...I can't see that right now. I am really trying to be done to prevent further hurt to me. Sometimes it sticks, but sometimes it doesn't.