Left Behind Husband on the Left Coast II

[MrBond]

"Well, I guess that beats a LRO coming into work to serve me with a TRO."

Yes it does.

"Like I said, I own all the many mistakes I made in my marriage. I am just having a hard time owning the divorce."

The D is a consequence of the mistakes. You can't accept one and not the other.

"I didn't force her to do this. I wanted to reconcile after finding possible evidence of a EA/PA."

You do understand that people who get into an A, usually do so because they didn't get some emotional need met at home, right?

"SHE chose this. SHE filed, not me."

In her mind she didn't have a choice. She didn't think you were going to change so she did it on her own.

"She didn't even tell me she was going to file!"

Because she knew how you were going to act.

"SHE is the one who refused to meet to talk about this face-to-face like adults."

Again, because she knew how you were going to act.

"SHE was the one who made the ridiculous accusations."

YOu did say that your family friend caused a scene with her right? She's scared and trying to protect herself.

"SHE is the one who made it so we cannot communicate except through my lawyer."

Again, because she doesn't want to deal with you and potentially your outbursts. That's just the way it is. You can't argue with what and how she wants to feel.

"She can be so darn stubborn sometimes, I think it might be pride?"

That's part of it.

" It just bums me out she can't see all the changes I've made."

Maybe she doesn't want to see them. Sandi recommended a book before "The Walk Away Wife". It may help you to read that.